A Corner I Never Saw Coming (Part 1)

You know the feeling of being somewhere and everybody else knows how everything works but you don't. That has been the definition of my perspective on life for more than 50 years. 

I assumed everyone else was going through the same troubles I was having.  They were just better at handling it. They could think better under better pressure. They always knew the right word, were quick with a crushing reply and conversation came naturally. 

I figured at some point I would grow out of the awkwardness and come into my own. While I waited for that magical moment I tried to hold myself together and fight back the waves of overwhelming depression. 

I don't know what made me try one of those online tests, boredom, curiousity, some faint wondering. The first time I took one it said I showed signs of being on the autism spectrum. I mentally filed it away and continued on my merry way thinking these tests were a crock.

The idea must have stewed there in the back of my mind slowly collecting evidence because my attention was drawn to a TED talk and I listened intently to the struggles of a woman who had just received a dignosis. To me, she didn't seem to be autistic. But the things she described were all painfully familiar to me. 

I was curious enough to start looking into this and found other autistic people who talked about their experiences. A journalist, a science vlog host who looked like Thor and others who looked ordinary like me. But when one of them said, "I feel like an ET on earth"  and another described receiving their diagnosis like receiving the owner's manual to their life, I noticed. Both were things I felt in my core. Except I hadn't found my manual. Yet. 

I took more tests from reputable sources like the autism societies in the US, UK, and Australia as well as medical groups in each of those countries. And the same results kept piling up. Every one, without fail, said I showed signs of being on the autism spectrum. 

I did more research and watched vlogs and informational videos. Before long I had a growing list of instances in my life that parallelled the experiences I learned about. 

I spent 2-3 years researching and gathering evidence. One YouTube host joked that just the thorougness researching was a good enough for a diagnosis! 

In the autism community it is usually enough to self identify to be accepted but that wasn't good enough for me. I wanted to be certain and official. 

Ohio has some of the best laws on the books protecting autism diagnoses and treatments but it still took me a year on a waiting list to get an appointment. 

Then the test began....